Shrinking Public Spaces in small cities is leaving women with unsafe choices

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Bright sunny days of February in Islamabad is a perfect time to catch some friends over fresh orange juice. Sunlight, Vitamin C and D and early spring may allure one to see beloved in open air, road side juice stalls or fast food corners; offering sitting in open air. You may find casual couples and groups in some of elite areas of capital. Engaged in talk or sharing some food. No one cares to notice who is the girl and why is she sitting there with that boy, or in that group.

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In Karachi or Lahore such gathers are evident too. But in small cities, in areas where standard mindset prevails no one can imagine to see their female friends openly.In Karachi or Lahore such gathers are evident too. But in small cities, in areas where standard mindset prevails no one can imagine to see their female friends openly. This never means the people living in such communities lack human instinct or desires to be loved and meet. They do but under cover.
Mostly girls are always afraid to be seen in public places and reported back to families. I was traveling in south Punjab couple of years back where I asked such questions from college students. Mostly boys easily admitted their relationships and talked about the late night cell phone talks, quick meetings in Bazaras to exchange small gifts etc. and later intimate meetings whenever they have a chance.
A chance means to invite girl in a private place like an empty home, when family is away, or a flat shared by friends to party, booze or inviting girls etc.
A disturbing fact revealed was that in most of the cases girls are invited for quick sex as both parties are aware of the fact that it’s a rare opportunity to have a private place, girls allowed to go out alone or with a female friend, and animal instinct all awake. Rush or hormones don’t even let the couple to think they are in love or only availing a chance to bang. They do it and that’s it.This resulted in multiple partners because boys don’t get enough of one girl. They keep trying on every possible woman. And avail every opportunity fully.
On the other hand, few girls hesitantly accepted the fact of meeting their beloveds in private which ends up at physical interaction that they don’t like. But in private they are left with less choice of leaving or protecting themselves.
Even women in such situations don’t keep themselves to one partner, in many cases they have more male friends; depends on offer of better secret and comfortable hideouts.
Thus the beautiful love lost its spirit and only lust dances.

”Only if society allows the women to take public places can protect many young people from falling for something that’s not their ultimate desire ’’

If a girl is not afraid of being seen publically with a man, she may never choose to be in a private place to risk her body and soul.

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